They came today only 2 days after I ordered them online! Over the weekend, one of my goals was to find some type of gift for the yet-to-be-determined birthmother of our child. What does one give as a thank you for the gift of a child? The task seemed overwhelming, but I knew I wanted something to express our gratitude and love to the woman that gave our baby life. It did seem a little weird to be ordering something when we have not been matched yet...But the reality that we could be matched very quickly with a birthmom that could be due any day made me want to have something in hand, ready for that moment.
What I finally found, after probably cumulative hours of looking, was a necklace. It is simple and beautiful, consisting of two silver circles intertwined. I decided to get two. One is for me and one is for the birthmom. To me, these necklaces symbolize the way our lives will forever be intertwined through our child, no matter what type of contact we have with her in the future.
I have no idea if our birthmom will like or appreciate this gift. We know nothing about her yet. I feel a sense of relief, however, that even if we were called tomorrow, matched with a baby born that same day, I would have something special to give our birthmom. And I really hope she does like it.
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I concluded after hours of agonizing over this very thing that there is nothing.....nothing that can say "thank you" for the gift of a child. Of course, that is obvious. It was one of those moments in the process when God reminded me how adoption so beautifully mirrors grace....we do nothing to deserve it, we can do nothing big enough to say "thanks" for it and we will never fully understand the price that was paid for it. We settled on a really nice leather journal.
ReplyDeleteperfect! check out thevintagepearl.com...my friend erin has a business along with being abusy mom of 4! After baby arrives....you need one of her pieces.
ReplyDeleteIt's a lovely thought. The symbolism is perfect.
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